Sylvia Hall

creative/entrepreneur

inspirational speaker

What We Make of Things & My New Book

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Sylvia Hall: This Is Real Life: Love Notes To Wake You Up At the beginning of this year, I had a cancer scare. A biopsy revealed suspicious cells on and around my thyroid. And, so, it needed to be removed. It was a highly stressful time... not necessarily because of the surgery, but because of how inundated I became with anxiety. To sum it up, I was experiencing a heaping dose of vulnerability regarding my own mortality. My anxiety was compounded with guilt. Guilt that I handled it all wrong and should've handled it better. A life coach suffering from a nervous breakdown? You can file that under total ego destruction.

However, one of the most persistent thoughts that clawed at me (when considering the end of my time here on planet earth), was the book pictured above. I needed to write that book! I couldn't croak with that book still inside me! At the time of my crisis, of course, that book was just an image in my mind.

Once I got a grip on my anxiety, the first thing I did was get to work on that book. There was nothing that could stop me. Not a fear of people hating it (I am certain some will). Not a fear of mean reviews on amazon (I am sure those are coming too). And not a fear of it being a flop. How could  it flop if my entire vision of WHY I was writing it was bigger than any outside validation? I was fueled by a desire that would trump all obstacles.

I'm delighted to share with you that approximately 8 months after my surgery, my book launched. This Is Real Life: Love Notes To Wake You Up is now available for purchase on Amazon or Etsy. Both places show previews of what the book is like. If you love the previews, you'll love the book. If you don't love the previews, you won't love the book. It's as simple as that!

From my simple and formulaic story I know now more than ever the importance of what we make things mean.

So, something happens. Freak out. Figure it out. Take some action. Just keep going.

Your story can either be your catalyst for growth or it can be your excuse.

Your story can inspire you to do great things, or it can stop you in your tracks.

What we make things mean matters so very much.

What do you make it mean when it rains? What do you make it mean when you get sick? What do you make it mean when you are overwhelmed? What do you make it mean when you are bored with your life?

The wonderful thing is... no matter what you've made it mean before in your life, you can shift your perspective now. All you have to do is tell a better story.

Yours,

Sylvia

On Failure

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fail again-01So... I was trying out this new idea... or, approach, if you will, and I thought that separating my coaching business into two businesses was the way to go. Crazy, feisty, creative Sylvia?? You sit nicely over here.

Serious business face with suit and heels Sylvia? You go over there. (OH! And DO NOT LET YOUR CRAZY SHOW!)

How did I really think that would work? Honestly. It was a fail.

But I am excited to talk to you briefly about failure.

Here's why failure is so good. Here's why failure is so important:

It means we tried. It means we are experimenting with ideas. It means we are putting ourselves out there.

That. Is. So. Important.

Keep trying things.

Try new things.

Try new ways.

Then, try tweaking them a bit (not to be mistaken for twerking them). (<---- there's the crazy I mentioned.)

Don't you just love the image above? "Ever tried. Ever failed. No matter. Try Again. Fail again. Fail better." - Samuel Beckett   ...I swoon.

Plus, separating who I am and what I love into two things is exactly the opposite of what I tell my clients all the time. Who we are is important and we can, actually, relish in what makes us different.

I'd also like to share a metaphor I love that I gained from the book "Fierce Conversations." In it, the author says: if you cut an orange, it does not matter whether you are at work or at home: orange juice comes out.

Cut any one of us open and our orange juice will come out. We are beings driven by feelings. Our desires come through as ideas. Expressing those ideas is important! The opposite of an idea expressed is an idea repressed. I've never met a thriving person who is also repressing their desires.

This stuff is the good stuff. It's too good to ignore.

-Sylvia

The Ass-Kicking Nature of Personal Responsibility

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The nature of personal responsibility is absolutely ass-kicking and here's why:

When you really own up to your choices, your desires, and your life... deliberate lifestyle creation can finally begin.

Why's that? Because you can get out of your own way of the blame game. You can own up to what you want.

You can KNOW that if you have what you want, it's because you created it, and if you don't have what you want, it's because you have yet to create it. And frankly, that's ok. It's wonderful actually. Because now you can do something about it.

The Bigs and Smalls of Personal Responsibility

Personality responsibility means taking care of yourself; eating a bowl of grapes rather than your kid's halloween candy.

Personal responsibility means owning your choices, and moving beyond past decisions to the only moment that is ever really yours, anyway-- the 'NOW moment' right in front of you.

Personal responsibility means that if you want to get inspired, you find a way to inspire yourself. You surround yourself with positive people and you give more than you take.

Personal responsibility means personal trust. Trusting that you can and will do what needs to be done when the time comes to do it. AH, now that's a beautiful concept.

Personal Responsibility = Freedom

Personal responsibility is really all about freedom.

Knowing you are always at choice means you are always free to change your mind about anything and everything whenever you are ready to do so.

 

XO,
Sylvia

 

PS- Did you know...

I offer one-on-one coaching, workshop trainings, and keynote presentations?

Contact me to schedule meeting. First things first, I'll give YOU a taste of how I do what I do, and then we'll create a plan for me to inspire your group or team!