Sylvia Hall

creative/entrepreneur

confidence training

On Failure

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fail again-01So... I was trying out this new idea... or, approach, if you will, and I thought that separating my coaching business into two businesses was the way to go. Crazy, feisty, creative Sylvia?? You sit nicely over here.

Serious business face with suit and heels Sylvia? You go over there. (OH! And DO NOT LET YOUR CRAZY SHOW!)

How did I really think that would work? Honestly. It was a fail.

But I am excited to talk to you briefly about failure.

Here's why failure is so good. Here's why failure is so important:

It means we tried. It means we are experimenting with ideas. It means we are putting ourselves out there.

That. Is. So. Important.

Keep trying things.

Try new things.

Try new ways.

Then, try tweaking them a bit (not to be mistaken for twerking them). (<---- there's the crazy I mentioned.)

Don't you just love the image above? "Ever tried. Ever failed. No matter. Try Again. Fail again. Fail better." - Samuel Beckett   ...I swoon.

Plus, separating who I am and what I love into two things is exactly the opposite of what I tell my clients all the time. Who we are is important and we can, actually, relish in what makes us different.

I'd also like to share a metaphor I love that I gained from the book "Fierce Conversations." In it, the author says: if you cut an orange, it does not matter whether you are at work or at home: orange juice comes out.

Cut any one of us open and our orange juice will come out. We are beings driven by feelings. Our desires come through as ideas. Expressing those ideas is important! The opposite of an idea expressed is an idea repressed. I've never met a thriving person who is also repressing their desires.

This stuff is the good stuff. It's too good to ignore.

-Sylvia

Discover How To Be A Leader That Gets MASSIVE Respect in Two Simple Steps

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Discover How to Be A Leader That Gets Massive Respect Respect: we all crave it, and yet the path to generating it can seem pretty daunting. In fact, in certain circles, it might even seem impossible! And yet, regardless of age, experience, or status, respect can be gained (or lost) more quickly than we realize. Here's my super simple and entirely sustainable process for gaining respect (no matter the relationship!). These two easy steps have worked for my clients as well as myself. Don't just read them though. Really lean into them and see what kind of results they can generate for you.

  1. Respect Yourself

Keep the focus on what you can control: you.

You are the only person who you can ever actually control. If respect is what you crave, focus on gifting that to yourself.

Being respectable is about personal integrity as well as self-awareness... perhaps the two BIGGEST indicators of leadership ability.

How can you expect someone else to respect you if you're not clearly setting the example? Simply stated: be respectable! Be worthy of respect by really doing what you say and really saying what you mean.

 

  1. Foster Connection

Put your focus on respect to the side. Focus instead on fostering connection. Once again, this is something you can control. Connection breeds respect.

Forget about demanding respect. Chasing respect is like chasing a wild dog. You won't catch him and the wild dog is not likely to be happy once caught.

With a true commitment to fostering more connection in your relationships, you can gain respect by showing up with integrity and truly caring about the best interest of those around you.

 

I want to hear from you!

How have you dealt with a lack of respect in your relationships?

Please leave a comment below.

-Sylvia