Sylvia Hall

creative/entrepreneur

Speakers Kansas City

On Failure

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fail again-01So... I was trying out this new idea... or, approach, if you will, and I thought that separating my coaching business into two businesses was the way to go. Crazy, feisty, creative Sylvia?? You sit nicely over here.

Serious business face with suit and heels Sylvia? You go over there. (OH! And DO NOT LET YOUR CRAZY SHOW!)

How did I really think that would work? Honestly. It was a fail.

But I am excited to talk to you briefly about failure.

Here's why failure is so good. Here's why failure is so important:

It means we tried. It means we are experimenting with ideas. It means we are putting ourselves out there.

That. Is. So. Important.

Keep trying things.

Try new things.

Try new ways.

Then, try tweaking them a bit (not to be mistaken for twerking them). (<---- there's the crazy I mentioned.)

Don't you just love the image above? "Ever tried. Ever failed. No matter. Try Again. Fail again. Fail better." - Samuel Beckett   ...I swoon.

Plus, separating who I am and what I love into two things is exactly the opposite of what I tell my clients all the time. Who we are is important and we can, actually, relish in what makes us different.

I'd also like to share a metaphor I love that I gained from the book "Fierce Conversations." In it, the author says: if you cut an orange, it does not matter whether you are at work or at home: orange juice comes out.

Cut any one of us open and our orange juice will come out. We are beings driven by feelings. Our desires come through as ideas. Expressing those ideas is important! The opposite of an idea expressed is an idea repressed. I've never met a thriving person who is also repressing their desires.

This stuff is the good stuff. It's too good to ignore.

-Sylvia

The Power of Proximity: The Who's and The What's of Choosing Expansive Surroundings

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The Who's And What's of Expansive Surroundings

The Five People Theory

Perhaps you've heard about the vast importance of the five people you spend the most time with? The quote by famous businessman Jim Rohn says: "You are the average of the five people you spend most of your time with."  Yikes. Not sure how this rule works for me, with a 3 year old and 5 year old being in my top two slots...

Unsure how to take it from here, I've been thinking about how I could translate and broaden this theory...

Introducing... The Proximity Rule

While I do think it's important to understand the implications of WHO you spend your time with, I want to touch on the importance of ALL the other things we allow into our proximity. Alongside of the people we are with the most... there are oodles of things which fill our minds, senses, surroundings.

Thoughtless radio dialogues on our commute, crap cluttered on cabinets (at home and at work!), buzz feed lists on our laptops, cynical tweets on our phone, hugely unimportant updates on our Facebook feeds, and yet we hungrily, mindlessly go back for more...

"We are what we repeatedly do," said Aristotle.

 

Be Intentional

Our daily choices (and habits!) really do turn into reflections of our lives.

How do you fill your time? And when you do what you do...what are you really looking to get?

My life made a dramatic turn for the better since discovering podcasts like: Design Matters or The Tim Ferris Show. Listening to intelligent people have meaningful conversations is pretty much the cat's meow. Especially when you are a mostly-at-home mom growing the business of your dreams right beside a 7 foot tall pile of laundry at 10:30 pm on a Friday night.

Blogs like: Brain Pickings by Maria Popova and posts like 'Something for the Weekend' from Susannah Conway are enough to keep my brain and soul fed. I find myself clicking around on inspiring/intelligent links rather than drooling over pies & lies on Facebook or sexy-crude tweets on twitter. The little shifts make a huge difference.

Do what you do on purpose.

To each her (or his) own, of course! But adding a healthy dose of intention is the cure here. Do what you do on purpose. Be where you are on purpose. Fill your time and your space with things on purpose. Fill up your mind and your heart on purpose.

 

XO,
Sylvia

 

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