Sylvia Hall


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A Self-Coaching Allegory

Life Coach Kansas City, Executive Coach in Kansas CitySylvia HallComment
A Self-Coaching Allegory

Approximately 12 hours after my husband left for his three-day biz trip to California (jealous much, smh)… 

A small brown mouse was spotted in my kitchen.

Why am I telling you about this?

Is it because I think you should feel sorry for me and my#firstworldproblems …? 


I'm telling you because I want to showcase to you how I am coaching myself through this.

I am telling you this, because maybe it can help you with your metaphorical mouse and your literal fears.

You see, the problem is fear.

Laughable fear. 

I am afraid of a mouse in my house.

But, noting this does not make me feel any better and it does not decrease my desire to evacuate and burn down the house entirely.

Now, mind you, I've already been told by my on-call-support-staff (my mum) that the mouse is more afraid of me than I am of it. But that thought did not help whatsoever.

Ok, back to identifying the fear.

The fears, specifically, are as follows:

* There is an outside rodent in my home.

* It might run across the top of my feet. 

(What can I say, I'm a flats girl, and I don't really want to clomp around my house in combat boots, though the thought has crossed my mind).

Ok, I have identified the stress-inducing thoughts!

It's important to note that the MOUSE, itself, is not causing my fear. 

It's my thoughts about the mouse.

Having now identified the fear causing thoughts, I can take a look at this mouse appearance (the FACT of the situation) and decide what else could I make this mean (my thoughts, AKA: the STORY about the mouse).

And here's what I've decided:

* Some people have a mouse as a pet. 

* I love pets!

* This is like having a tiny dog.

* Except I don't have to let it out to pee, and it surely won't shed as much as my other two dogs!

* If it runs over my feet, ONE OF MY BIGGEST FEARS TO DATE will have been TACKLED. I could basically CELEBRATE!

* Maybe other people have irrational fears. I could write this silly essay and MAYBE I could help them with their #issues ... 

When I think the above thoughts, I feel better.
When I feel better, I can act in a more normal, productive, enjoyable way.

When I act in the above stated way, I get to create the results I CRAVE to create.

So, there you have it. 

- Sylvia

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Mastering Mindset to Enhance Awareness and Productivity

mindset coaching, workplace training Kansas City, employee engagement trainingSylvia HallComment


This post is a doozy-- offering you a comprehensive walk-through on a power-house perspective shift. 

My focus as a workplace training facilitator revolves around teaching mindset as a skill set. But what does that really mean?

It means learning to manage your mind.

It means changing the way you think about your thinking.

It means understanding that you can change how you think about things (which changes everything).

The key starting point I teach my clients is the difference between thoughts and facts.

So many people I work with are CERTAIN that the way they are seeing things are simply and resolutely 'the way they really are.'

While there are circumstances that we can not control, the biggest and most POTENT creator of our reality is still at our disposal: we get to choose how we think about life.

So often, though, we stop questioning things. We lose our curiosity. We think they've seen it all, so we stop seeing anything at all. We play the blame game and in turn, give all of our power away.

There's a better way, though. We can begin to master our mindset by making a shift towards awareness.

Let's say for instance my client is doing marketing for a residential fence company.

They might say to me, "Sylvia, I know we need to connect our people to a deeper purpose... but we are talking about fences. This is not sexy or profound work."

Chances are they REALLY believe that statement. But, it is not a fact. It is just a thought. And the more they think it, the more they believe it. And the more they believe it, the truer it is for them. 

"What if it was profound work?" I might ask them.

"What if you were the sexiest fencing company in all of Kansas City?" I might ask.

Or, I might say "So what if the fencing company is not sexy. What does THAT even mean?"

So many people think something is true when it is actually just their opinion.

There's nothing wrong with an opinion, but here's the thing: once we've made our mind up about something, there's less wiggle room for new ideas to grow.

Once we have decided we already know the answer, we stop looking for fresh solutions. 

It's funny, really. Oftentimes, we think we know the answer but we haven't even been asking the right questions.

Yes, enhancing awareness and enhancing your productivity are both perks of a fresh perspective.

So, How Do We Enhance Awareness (Which, In Turn, Enhances Productivity)?

1. We untangle ourselves from the story. We seek out real, solid, facts and from there we tell a better story about them.

Ask yourself "what else could be true?"

Ask yourself "wouldn't it be great if...?"

2. We open ourselves up to "the other side of the coin."

Every coin has two sides. What we want and the absence of it.  If you are stuck in the struggle of what you don't want-- flip the coin. Think about the other side of the coin. Talk about the other side: FOCUS on what you do want

3. We bless the contrast.

Do not hold resentment towards what you had and did not want. Instead, bless the contrast. It is only because you had what you did not want that you came to see what you really do want. (Try saying this: it is what it is and I love it. )

Learning how to master your mindset means becoming aware of the way you are thinking about your world.

You can enhance your awareness and your productivity by making it a regular practice to untangle yourself from mind-drama which is holding you back.

There are oodles of things that are out of your control, but your mindset isn't one of them. Isn't that great?


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