How To Show Appreciation Without Being A Schmoozer

HowToShowAppreciationWithoutBeingASchmoozer-01First off, let me just say: I love that my work allows me to use words like 'schmoozer' in my titles. Entrepreneurship for the win! Onward… The topic of today's post comes to you from numerous conversations I've had with clients. The pressing question I want to address today is: "How can we show appreciation to the people in our lives, in a way that's genuine and effective?"

This will serve you well at work AND at home AND everywhere in between, of course.

First off, it's useful to take a step back and ask yourself: What's my EPT (Encourager Personality Type)?

(YES! I did just make up that acronym.)

But, seriously.

Do you A.) find it easy to speak encouraging words and sing the praises of the people in your life?

Or, are you B.) more reserved in your acclamations?

Or, maybe, C.) the idea of "using your words" seems too touchy feely and it makes your skin itch and your heart palpitate...?!

It's REALLY important to distinguish this.

It might be that you're already doing a great job verbalizing your appreciation. If you already "seek out the good" and are intentional about expressing your appreciation, then good for you!

On the other hand, if you are not so sure how well you convey your appreciation or if you know expressing isn't your top-strength, then keep on reading. This blog post is for you! Actually--keep reading, either way... because someone you know might resonate with this info as well!

Everyone knows that constant praise (AKA: schmoozing) loses its impact. But neglecting to offer sincere words of appreciation could lead to some serious issues.

As stated in the Forbes article "10 Reasons Your Top Talent Will Leave You" by contributor Mike Myatt, "Failing to recognize the contributions of others is not only arrogant and disingenuous, but it’s also just as good as asking them to leave."

Expressing appreciation makes people feel valued. Expressing appreciation makes people feel seen. Deep down we all crave to feel seen.

This might be a good time to remind you: what you practice is what you get good at. So, rest assured: if expressing appreciation doesn't come naturally to you, that's nothing a little practice can't fix.

It's Simple. Let's Talk Specifics
  1. Find a good time (with minimal distractions).
  2. Be SPECIFIC about a recent positive experience. You don't have to go on and on about it.
  3. Verbalize your appreciation. Share with them directly (not to someone else!) WHY their input was helpful, valuable, or appreciated.
  4. Be sure to make some eye contact.
  5. Don't pat them on the head.

That's it. Easy, peasy.

Last, and certainly not least, know this: if you struggle to recognize the good things coming from the people around you... it's highly likely you aren't recognizing the good you are doing, personally. Ask yourself: do I value and appreciate the work I am doing in the world?

I'd love to hear from you. How (or how well) do you show your appreciation to those you work or live with? Comment below and let me know!

Dear reader....I APPRECIATE You!

 

- Sylvia