Sylvia Hall


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This Blue Sky

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blue kansas city sky

What did we do today?

Well, after typing out a bit of it, I realized: my highly personal kids would likely prefer I not share all of this. Or any of it, really.

And therein lies the personal blogging block I’ve had for some time.

When I first started blogging, my son was in the womb, and daughter was just an idea. ;)

I could write whatever with little consequence!

Now, so much of what I write and experience is about me as a mom, navigating these mucky waters. Growing a business is a breeze, compared to growing children in this world.

And I wonder: is there a way to cathartically share my own experiences without exposing the people who want to stay out of the lime light?

I’ve been back at it with daily writing in my journal but every time I think of “firing up” my personal blog again, I feel a certain energy of excitement.

Is it just nostalgia? Or is it another one of those nudges, guiding me along the path?

They sky today isn’t blue at all. But on the day I took this photo it was, and hopefully soon, it will be again.


5 Common Energy Traps And What You Can Do About Them

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energytraps-01I meet so many intelligent individuals who so unintelligently waste their energy. And, I promise I mean that in the nicest of ways. We all do it... sometimes. But if you are consistently feeling energy-zapped, you might be ready to shine a light of curiosity... to trigger some contemplation. Maybe-- just maybe -- you are currently feeling energy zapped by some of these I know I feel that way sometimes. BUT...

Shining the light of our attention means we can switch over our intention to embrace new, more "energy efficient" tactics in our lives.

Here they are... five common energy traps and, of course, ways you can "bust out of them" in order to renew and elevate your energy!

1. Expecting too much of anything from anyone

Yes, we can make sensible agreements with people. And, indeed, we can set healthy boundaries. But think for a moment about how much disappointment and frustration comes from failed expectations. It's not pessimistic to lower your expectations. It's freeing! Instead of putting so much focus on what everyone else is doing to you, or for you instead shift your focus. Ask yourself: "How do I want to show up today? Who do I want to be? How do I want to feel? How can I feel that way now!?

2. Attaching to the outcome

When we become fixated on what will happen, or what we want to happen, we lose sight of what's possible, what's beautiful, and what's perfect. If instead we focus on our work "in the moment" we can actually guarantee with more certainty that we will have our eyes on the ball (our goals!), and yet also on the whole field (our desired lifestyle & legacy!).

3. Forgetting that a 'miracle' is just one new thought away

"A Course In Miracles" is an incredible and fairly famous metaphysical book, in which a miracle is defined as: a change in perspective. That is all. And, that is all that is required for us to experience a life-changing breakthrough. If you are in an energy slump, try to remember, this too shall pass, and a loving and comforting thought is always within reach when we are ready.

4. Failing to take care of yourself

At first I wanted to call this trap "failing to be kind to yourself" but self-care is a complex critter. Kindness is so important. So is self-acceptance, self-trust, self-beleif, self-confidence, and ultimately... self-love.  Whew. Thats a lot of selfs. And yet, can you put a check mark next to each of these? Do you accept yourself fully? Trust your journey entirely? Have confidence in your abilities? Now, of course nobody is perfect in any of these areas; yet, bringing our attention to the question can change our intention about the question. How do you WANT to feel about yourself? How would you like to be cared for? Whatever it is you want, you can create that for yourself. Once again, if only you are ready to do it for yourself.

5. Losing sight of being "at choice"

Whew. This one is a tough one for me. Once I had kids, I felt tied to the boat, so to speak. I love my kids. Duh. But there is something so "intense" about their needs. They kinda sorta need to eat and stuff. And sleep. Yea, that crazy thing... being in charge of someone else's sleep habits. Oy. But, when we come back to it, we can see that every single thing we do for our children (or our selves, or our spouses, or our bosses, or our mothers) is a CHOICE. We are choosing whether to show up fully, or half-assed. We are in at choice if we give them our best or give them the blame. We can always choose. Once you release the idea that your are obligated to do something and realize that you are actually making your choices from a place of love, logic, and authenticity, it feels much better ... and so much easier to stay in the flow of being the real energetic YOU.