Sylvia Hall


Executive Coach in Kansas City

A Self-Coaching Allegory

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A Self-Coaching Allegory

Approximately 12 hours after my husband left for his three-day biz trip to California (jealous much, smh)… 

A small brown mouse was spotted in my kitchen.

Why am I telling you about this?

Is it because I think you should feel sorry for me and my#firstworldproblems …? 


I'm telling you because I want to showcase to you how I am coaching myself through this.

I am telling you this, because maybe it can help you with your metaphorical mouse and your literal fears.

You see, the problem is fear.

Laughable fear. 

I am afraid of a mouse in my house.

But, noting this does not make me feel any better and it does not decrease my desire to evacuate and burn down the house entirely.

Now, mind you, I've already been told by my on-call-support-staff (my mum) that the mouse is more afraid of me than I am of it. But that thought did not help whatsoever.

Ok, back to identifying the fear.

The fears, specifically, are as follows:

* There is an outside rodent in my home.

* It might run across the top of my feet. 

(What can I say, I'm a flats girl, and I don't really want to clomp around my house in combat boots, though the thought has crossed my mind).

Ok, I have identified the stress-inducing thoughts!

It's important to note that the MOUSE, itself, is not causing my fear. 

It's my thoughts about the mouse.

Having now identified the fear causing thoughts, I can take a look at this mouse appearance (the FACT of the situation) and decide what else could I make this mean (my thoughts, AKA: the STORY about the mouse).

And here's what I've decided:

* Some people have a mouse as a pet. 

* I love pets!

* This is like having a tiny dog.

* Except I don't have to let it out to pee, and it surely won't shed as much as my other two dogs!

* If it runs over my feet, ONE OF MY BIGGEST FEARS TO DATE will have been TACKLED. I could basically CELEBRATE!

* Maybe other people have irrational fears. I could write this silly essay and MAYBE I could help them with their #issues ... 

When I think the above thoughts, I feel better.
When I feel better, I can act in a more normal, productive, enjoyable way.

When I act in the above stated way, I get to create the results I CRAVE to create.

So, there you have it. 

- Sylvia

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What if Work Was One Of Your Favorite Things?

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When I was a child my favorite thing to play was "work." I loved to play work. It was, really, my favorite thing to do. And, I "worked" a lot of different places, too.

I had my own library.

I became a lawyer who wrote down pages and pages of notes about my cases.

I owned storefronts with dolls and animals for sale.

And, of course, I hosted a good-many lemonade stands.

Looking back, I can see there was one thing I loved about work: the exhilarating feeling of accomplishment.

Playing work allowed me to expand upon my interests.

Playing work allowed me to make an impact.

Playing work put me in my "flow state."

Flow is described by Mihaly Csiksgentmihalyi as "the mental state of operation in which a person performing an activity is fully immersed in a feeling of energized focus, full involvement, and enjoyment in the process of the activity."

Work as play makes sense when you are using your talents and making an impact.

Work as play makes sense when you are a part of a community of people who are working with you towards a common goal.

What would you have to believe in order for work to be one of YOUR favorite things?

What puts you in your flow state?

I'd love to hear from you in the comments below!