You Don't Have To Do This Alone

About 11 years ago when my husband and I moved to Kansas City, I was a part of a very hip crowd.

What’s the crowd, you say?

It was the blogging crowd. And everyone was not doing it.

At least not then.

But I didn’t come up with this blogging this on my own.

Oh no.

I am open-minded but I am not that clever!

I learned about blogging from a writer’s group I joined.

The group founder/leader was Suzanne Lieurance and she was IT!

A real, published authr! She wrote for a living. For a living, people!

She was legit and she laid it down: "I want every single one of you blogging!”

So… I started a blog.

There was something fabulous about that time. It was a time before social media was this power-house/connective/distractor.

you dont have to do this alone

Blogging was fun! 

I had a voice!

And a platform!

I could develop my skills as a writer and also connect with like-minded people!

(I deleted that blog a couple of years back. It’s a damn crying-shame, and it was done out of a prideful “Omg, my writing was so bad back then! No one must ever know,” sort of thing.)

Along with starting a blog, another part of the assignment was to find other bloggers and connect and comment on their blogs.

I met some people back then that I am still friends with today!

One of these people…. we’ll call her K.

K was a voracious writer and blogger.

She used to blog these loooooong posts about her life as a writer. 

And for whatever reason, I devoured her blog posts like candy. 

She would send out her posts via email each morning and I would sit in front of my laptop with my cereal (pre-kids!) and I would read all about her life: her projects, her problems, her cats, her clients, her stories, her main characters, etc.

I was hooked!

To this day, I can not recall ever seeing an actual photo of K.

Now, isn’t that something!

It’s not super relevant to the story (or maybe it is, on some deeper level that i can’t quite access without more coffee) but anyway, it’s interesting!

Fast forward a decade or so to my current ongoings.

I am a life coach.

I am the cofounder of a new brand called LIFTED and we are getting ready to launch our own line of probiotics.

I still write. 

I will always write.

But now, I do other things, too.

One of them being video.

I make videos for my business.

Why?

Because I thought it up?

Heck no!

I am creative but I am not that clever.

I make videos because another mentor of mine, Micah Horner said:

“Hey! If you want your business to be successful you have to do video!”

So…. I started making videos.

Was it easy?

No!

It was excruciating.

“You blink a lot when you’re on camera,” my favorite, dear, sweet, jerk-face friend said. (I LOOOOOOVE you PEARL!)

"Yea, I know. I get awkward as soon as I click record.”

And, I can’t honestly say that I am suddenly super awesome at video but I will say, I am getting better. 

And I am glad I committed to doing these videos.

It truly is a phenomenal way to build the know/like/trust factor with my people and also share what I know!

Ok, dear readers. If you have read this far, it is time I reward you with the theme.

The MESSAGE of the message, if you will.

I am a soloprenuer but i am NOT DOING THIS ALONE.

I have mentors. 

Some of them know they are my mentors and I thank them. Others of them have no idea and that’s okay too (Shout out to YOU Gary Vee!!!!!!!!!)

None of us has to do any of this alone.

We get by and ‘ahead!' with a little help from our friends and mentors. 

- Sylvia

Feeling GOOD is SIMPLER Than We Think: The Four Pillars of Wellbeing

There was a time in my life not too long ago when I really struggled with anxiety. And there was a separate time in my life not to long ago that I also really struggled with depression.

During these times I really relied on my ability to self-coach.

What I mean by that is -- I would use my coaching tools to manage my own mind and try to understand my own emotions.

These tools really helped me then and I am happy to report that I no longer consider myself to struggle with either one of those any more.

The trouble was... even beyond the anxiety and depression, I still felt like I was constantly having to coach myself.

...constantly trying to get through another mood swing.

If you know me I'm sure you think this seems improbable because I am a jolly gal.

I've been dubbed...

 ... sappy.

... entirely too happy.

... and overly optimistic.

That's my natural state.  My preferred state.

But--- internally, I was experiencing such swings in my mood, that I simply KNEW there had to be a better way. 

I decided something.

I decided we were not designed to have to coach ourselves out of a bad mood every day.

Instead, I believe our natural state is much lighter. 

This post is about that stance.

I am SO excited TO SHARE the four pillars of wellbeing...

I'm all about making things as SIMPLE as possible.

The first two pillars are the most common and you've probably heard of them before.

The third pillar is super important and it involves the work I've been doing the past three years.

The fourth pillar of wellbeing is the way of the future.

The view from here shows great promise for enhanced mental health and wellbeing, and FEELING REALLY GOOD AGAIN.

Okay, without any further delay, here they are... 

The FOUR PILLARS of WELLBEING:

1. Nutrition. Food is information. What you put into your body matters. Eat more WHOLE, REAL foods. Incorporate more vegetables, fruits, nuts, seeds, and good fats into your diet. Period. 
2. Exercise. Move your dang body. We were not designed to sit all day.  MOTION IS NATURE'S LOTION. Utilize it.
3. Mindset. You cannot blame others for your misery without being stuck in your misery forever. When you take personal responsibility for your own happiness, you are free to create it. 
4. Gut Health. This one is cutting edge. All health begins in the gut. Tending to your micro-biome is a MUST if you want to experience true wellbeing. What's that look like? Probiotic/prebiotic foods and/or a quality probiotic supplement.

 

1, 2, 3, 4. BOOOM. So simple. 

Don't overthink it. 
Just prioritize them.

You've got this!

-Sylvia

 

PS-  Are interested in learning more about our brand new line of probiotics, LIFTED, that are launching OH SO SOON?  

Sign up HERE. You'll be the first to know when we launch ... at a crazy-good, ridiculously low introductory price! 🚀  

Also, there will be GIVEAWAYS!

Here's that link again... go sign up so you don't miss it! 

 

- Sylvia 

Weaning Off Antidepressants (Part Two)

Part Two

What happens when you realize you have postpartum depression?

(If you missed part one, you can read it here: http://www.sylvia-hall.com/blog/my-postpartum-depression)

Well, when you realize FOR sure, you have postpartum depression,  you might wait it out, or pray it out, or drink it out, or talk it out...

But for me, I freaked out ...and called my doctor.

I asked to be seen as soon as possible.

I don’t remember too many specifics from that visit, but I do know I came home with a prescription for an antidepressant... 

… a medicine that I would later find to be VERY, INSANELY difficult to wean myself off from.

I’ve been weaning off those meds for OVER ONE YEAR NOW.

It would have been way more fun to write “it took me 13 months to completely wean myself off…

But instead I get to write: 

"It’s taken me 13 months and counting because slow and steady wins the race with these bastard pills.”

I’m down to a very small sliver as I write this, and because I finally learned THE RIGHT WAY TO COME OFF of this medicine, I have been able to do so— gracefully!

But! Let me tell you how many times I tried coming off of them, to no avail during the past five years: DOZENS.

You see, I tried and tried so many times to stop taking them.

I didn’t want to be taking them forever!

Plus, I had begun experiencing side-effects.

But every time I would do what the doctor recommended to come off of antidepressants, it was a train wreck.

FYI, Here’s the standard protocol to come off of an antidepressant:

Take half for awhile.

Then after awhile go down to another half (a quarter).

And then after a while, stop taking the meds.

And...

Um. 

Yea.

That didn’t work.

I would experience:

Extreme irritability

Extreme headaches

Extreme tiredness

Extreme anxiety

Each time I had tried to come off of the drug was a massive failure because the side-effects were so severe.

Each time, I would feel like such a failure. 

Each time, I would think… 

Oh. 

Maybe I really do need these meds.

Because I feel so, so, so crappy when I take less of them.

But, then I read this book: "Your Drug May Be Your Problem"

And I learned something very important:

WEANING OFF ANTI-DEPRESSANTS is like weaning off a serious drug. THERE WILL BE WITHDRAWAL SYMPTOMS.

How did I not know this?!

Well...

I’ve never been addicted to cold hard crack. (Surprised?)

I’ve never been addicted to nicotine, heroine, alcohol or any other “DRUG” per say…

But antidepressants have withdrawal symptoms just like ‘real’ drugs...

I’ve since learned that when weaning off antidepressants, some people have to go slow.

Very, very slow.

And… the longer you have been on them, the more time it could take your body to adjust.

If you go too fast, you can experience significant withdrawal symptoms. 

A 50 percent reduction? HA! I laugh in the faec of a 50% reduction.

I found that a 10% or less reduction was much easier on my body.

For some, lessening the dose too quickly, can produce damning withdrawal symptoms:

Massive brain fog, irritability, tiredness, anxiety, nausea, electric shocks, flu-like symptoms, depression…

From reading that book I mentioned, I decided to try a very teeny, tiny, slow reduction approach.

And in doing so, I realized I did not NEED medicine.

I just needed to minimize the withdrawal effects by glowing S L O W

This has been a long and trying journey.

But I have learned so much and I am brimming with hope and I want to share it all with you.

Once again, that’s enough for now.

MORE  TO COME!

- Sylvia