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Is Your Goal Specific Enough?

The first 10 minutes of my 30 minute walk I want to quit. 

Almost every time.

Is your goal specific enough?

Ok, sometimes it’s only the first 7 minutes, but oftentimes it takes the full ten minutes for my body to get the hang of things and start to enjoy the movement.

 

But I’ve learned this about myself and it doesn’t trick me any more.

 

Oftentimes, I’ll trick my mind with a distraction.

 

I’ll put in my earbuds and listen to a podcast.

 

But once my legs and my body realize that I mean business and we are doing this 30 minute power walk thing, it relaxes and I get to enjoy myself.

 

I pull the earbuds out and tuck them away.

That’s when the magic begins.

I’m in nature and I’m in the flow. One of my favorite states.

I’m soaking in the brightness, or the grayness of the day.

I’m watching critters scamper: today’s treat was a squirrel trying to carry an entire branch full of acorns. (He dropped the bundle, and ran up the tree when I got closer. I left him alone so he could come back down and get his great find.)

 

Walks are magical for me, and since my kids started back at school last week, I decided I wanted to commit to three 30 minute walks, per week.

 

See how specific that goal is? 

There’s no way around it.

Either I do it, or I don’t.

 

Oftentimes, people will say: 

I need to workout more.

Or, I need to exercise regularly.

 

How much is more?

 

How often is regularly?

 

Those statements are vague and leave little room for achievement.

 

Set a goal for yourself that is easy to measure. Then, tell a friend.

I told my friend, Pearl.

 

You can tell me, if you’d like.

What can I hold you to doing?

 

- Sylvia 

Are you all in... or one foot out the door?

Before now, I wasn’t really ever committed to my own success.

Sounds crazy but it’s absolutely true and I’d love to tell you why. Stay with me here….

Some of ya’ll have been my readers of my blog for a long time.

Either way, wherever we’ve come together on this beautiful timeline of life, you’ve probably seen me exploring a lot of things.

are you all in... or one foot out the door?

 

One of my favorite sayings is: 

“The way to know life is to love many things." -Van Gogh

 

It goes so well with my many passions!

I designed and sold jewelry all over Kansas City for around 6 years.

And then of course, about three years ago, I decided to pursue life coaching and became a certified coach. 

And there were several other fun pursuits in between all that...

But here’s the truth:

 

I wasn’t ready, or willing to make any of these successful.

 

Even the jewelry business which hit over 1,000 sales on etsy and likely had equal that in local Kansas City sales.

Even the life coaching, where my clients pay me over $100/hour for one-on-one sessions and where I’m paid $1,000 + for an hour keynote.

Despite all of that awesomeness, it’s absolutely true that I was not “ALL IN" with either of those. 

 

I was not completely committed and now I am, and I want to tell you why.

 

The reason I (subconsciously) did not want any of my other businesses to become successful was because it would’ve meant MORE work and MORE time and MORE energy and MORE everything than I had to give.

As a mom, HSP, creative, wife, daughter, sister, and friend… I could not give any more.

 

And more success would’ve meant more work and more of ME than I was willing to give. 

 

Success, then, was this illusive wish. I wanted to sell more, gain more exposure, etc. etc.

But, then... I didn’t, actually.

And, now… amazingly, things are different.

Massive success is not only welcome, but it’s also planned for.

 

My new business, Lifted was built in a way that none of my other businesses have been built. 

 

It’s scalable. 

It’s not reliant on me and me alone.

(If you want more information on this concept, Robert Kiyosaki’s book "Rich Dad, Poor Dad" is a GREAT starting point and his book "Cashflow Quadrant” is great read, too!)

Now, more sales does not mean more work for me. (Well, maybe a little, but not much more.) 

 

Instead, more sales means… YESSSS! I can help more people. And that’s the really fun part. 

 

Is it possible that you are blocking your own success as well because what it would mean for your life as a whole? 

And remember... one other favorite quite that has been a guiding light:

 

"Success without fulfillment is failure.”-Tony Robbins

 

Cheers,

Sylvia

Cultivating An Appreciation Mindset

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Today, I am talking about how to cultivate a mindset of appreciation

My last post talked about "How to Show Appreciation Without Being a Schmoozer." If you haven't checked that post out, go do so now. In it, I share a couple of simple yet direct ways to express appreciation without getting too mushy. It'll serve you at work, home, and beyond.

Since writing that post, I've come to realize the tricky thing about appreciation does not just lie in the art of expressing it, but, also, in the ability to look for it. You see, the art of expressing appreciation goes hand in hand with the ability to consciously seek out reasons to feel appreciation. 

When it comes to cultivating an appreciation mindset, there is a significant shift involved.

As mentioned before, vocalizing appreciation comes more naturally for some people. Regardless, it's a habit that can be cultivated with practice. The same is true for an 'appreciation mindset.'

If you are looking for reasons to appreciate, you will find them. If you are looking for problems, you will find them. This is the true power of a mindset shift: thoughts create our reality.

I'm reminded of a story about a client of mine.

She was frustrated with her husband. She was feeling overwhelmed and under-supported.

I said to her, "Tell me some of the ongoing thoughts that you're having day in and out about your husband." It's probably no surprise that she was stuck in a very negative thought loop.

I mean, I could easily see how these stories were causing her frustration. I coulda jumped right into it with her. Yes! Yes! Yes! Those things are all very frustrating!

But, here's the flip...

"Tell me about all of the wonderful things your husband does for you, your family, and even for himself," I said to her next.

It took her a while to get started, but once she did, she had a bundle of great things to say. She kept going and going, because there really were so many things...

"How do you feel now that you have been thinking about all of this?" I asked.

"I feel better," she replied.

When it comes to these two different sets of stories you can choose to tell about your husband, which version makes you feel better about you?" I asked.

"The latter, of course," she said.

"Practice that," I said to her.

Practice finding reason to appreciate whenever possible.

Appreciate yourself.

Appreciate your spouse.

Appreciate your neighbors.

Appreciate your colleagues.

Appreciate what they are showing you about yourself.

Appreciate the contrast they allow you to discover, which further shows you what you do want for yourself.

Appreciate the lessons around you whenever possible. {It's always possible.}

truly,

-Sylvia

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